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  • The Difference Between Burnout and Just Being Tired

    “I think I might be burnt out” is one of the most common things I hear in early coaching sessions. And almost every time, my first question back is: “What makes you say that?” The answer is usually some version of, “I’m just really tired.” Being tired and being burnt out can feel similar from…

  • Why Being “Too Much” Was Never the Real Problem

    Someone told you that you were too much. Maybe they said it directly. Too intense, too sensitive, too emotional, too loud, too needy, too opinionated. Too big for the space they wanted you to fit in. Maybe they never said it out loud but communicated it in the ways people do, the eye roll, the…

  • The Compliments You Deflect…. And What That Says About Self-Worth

    Someone says something kind to you. Maybe they tell you that you did a great job. That you’re really good at this. That you look amazing today. That you’ve helped them in ways you probably don’t even realize. And before the words have fully landed, you’re already deflecting. “Oh it was nothing.” “Anyone would have…

  • Why You Keep Going Back to What Hurt You

    You’ve done this before. Left and gone back. Ended it and restarted it. Walked away and found yourself, weeks or months later, standing at the same door. The same relationship, the same dynamic, the same situation that you already know, from experience, from therapy, from every honest conversation you’ve had with yourself at 2am, is…

  • Outgrowing the Person Everyone Expects You to Stay

    There’s a version of you that the people in your life have decided is the real one. Maybe it was built a long time ago, in the family you grew up in, the friend group you’ve had since high school, the relationship that defined a decade of your life. Maybe it was built more recently,…

  • The Mirror Doesn’t Lie…. But Most of Us Have Learned to Avoid It

    Let’s talk about the person in every story who never thinks they’re the problem. You know them. Maybe you love them. Maybe you work with them. Maybe, and this is the part that requires the most courage to read, maybe, in some chapter of your life, in some relationship or situation, that person has been…

  • The Moment You Realize You’ve Been Abandoning Yourself to Keep the Peace

    It doesn’t happen all at once. That’s the thing nobody tells you. It’s not one big decision where you consciously choose someone else over yourself. It’s a thousand small ones. A comment you let slide. An opinion you softened before it left your mouth. A need you quietly set aside because the timing felt wrong.…

  • Permission to Not Be Okay…. And Why Rushing the Healing Makes It Longer

    We have a complicated relationship with not being okay. We’ll admit it in private, to the journal, to the 2am ceiling, to the one friend who’s seen us ugly cry. But in the light of day, there’s pressure. To be resilient. To be bouncing back. To have the lesson learned and the growth visible and…

  • The One Question to Ask Yourself When You Don’t Know Where to Start: What Do I Actually Want Now?

    When everything falls apart (or even just quietly stops working) the advice comes fast. Make a plan. Set goals. Start small. Take it one day at a time. Find your purpose. Build a routine. Get back out there. All of it well-meaning. Most of it is useless when you’re standing in the rubble of something…

  • You’re Not an Imposter…. You’re Just New (And There’s a Difference)

    Imposter syndrome has become one of those phrases we reach for the moment we feel out of our depth. You start a new role, take on a bigger project, step into a room full of people who seem to know exactly what they’re doing, and the familiar voice shows up. I don’t belong here. I’m…